Casual Sex for Surfers – Crash Course

So you’re a surfer and Tinder is too vanilla for you?

Well, you’re not alone in that. Dating for surfers has always been slightly more difficult. But once you get a taste of kink it’s even more difficult to date without it. For a lot of people, it’s a necessity to have some sort of variation in their sex life even if they’re just looking for a casual fuck friend. Whether that variation be a difference in sexual roles, partners, or sensations during sexual play, the variation is needed and craved.  It all boils down to using the right app, and using these 5 steps to hookup with anyone.

As someone who’s grown tired of the vanilla dating scene – but is forced to operate within its confines – I’m always looking for apps and dating service that look to cater to the freakier members of society.

Formerly 3nder, Feeld is an app that advertises itself as dating for “open-minded couples and singles”. After being hit with a lawsuit from Tinder, 3nder was forced to change their name. They seemed to have seen the opportunity to rebrand themselves as well by changing the direction of their app from facilitating threesomes to expanding to facilitating dating for the open-minded… whatever that means.

For me the beauty is in the ambiguity. Open-minded can mean so many different things. That can mean you’re open to a threesome or you’re looking for someone into fetish; what I’m saying is that the possibilities are endless. This app seems to be for anyone who’s looking to try something adventurous. Honestly, Feeld is filling the hole that had yet to be filled by Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel and OkCupid. The gaping hole in dating services for – whatever you define as – open-minded people has been patched!

I signed up for the app and did some exploring. Here are some of the features I really liked:

• You can connect your profile to your partner’s
If you’re an open-minded couple, you can connect your profiles! They show that you’re linked in a relationship and feature both member’s gender and sexuality on one profile. So you don’t have to go through the hassle of explaining to your matches that you have a SO, and yes they know you’re on a dating app.

• In-app warnings about people with no bio
I like that the app automatically inserts a warning about profiles with no bio. The prepopulated text explains that blank profiles are never a good sign and to be careful about what information you share with that person. While this might seem like common sense to most, a pretty face can be pretty blinding to some.

• Only able to upload photos from Facebook
Even though it’s pretty easy to make a catfish account that you can link to any dating app, it is somewhat reassuring that you have to connect your profile to a Facebook profile and that it only allows you to upload photos from said profile.

• There’s a ton of sexualities to choose from
Are you something other than gay, straight, or bi? Good! Because they probably have your sexuality listed! Which is very exciting.

• Reasonably price upgrade with decent features
Most dating apps have some sort of pay-walled upgrade, but I think that the most value comes with Feeld! Since there’s no swiping through only to find you can’t swipe back, they don’t charge you to go back and see missed potential matches. They do however allow you the option to hide from Facebook friends on Feeld and allow you to see who’s liked you before deciding where you stand on them. I think that the award for the best value for a dating app upgrade definitely goes to this app.